I need Someone To Talk To.

I received a call from a friend (I promised her, I wont disclose her name) at about 9pm yesterday. I was surprised that she called me because she's only communicated to me via e-mail before now. By the way she is my friend even though we have never met physically only virtually (Online) through a friend that knows us both but I do call her occasionally. On taking her call, the first thing she told me from a sad voice was 'I Need Someone To Talk To'. I paused and asked what the issue was, she really did want to tell me but did not know if she should.

I asked her to drop so I can call her back. I did and that was when she told me, that her fiance cheated on her and mistreated her some months back but the thoughts keep hurting her even though they claim to have settled the issue.

I am not a counsellor and even if I want to be, certainly not for ladies. I tried talking to her though and whatever I told her would have been good because after talking with her for about 14 minutes, she, amidst her laughter thanked me for the relieve she's got from talking with me.
(I have her permission to write only this but Iwill seek her permission to post our conversation someday, hopefully soon.)

When I lay on my bed later to sleep that night, these thoughts came to my mind.

When do we need someone to talk to?

How often do we need someone to talk to?

When your friends need someone to talk to, do they call you?

Who do you call when you need someone to talk to?

When people need you to talk to, are you always there for them?

What do you expect from people you need to talk to?

After talking with those who need to talk to you, are they better or worse?

How prepared are you to answer those who need to talk to you?

Believe me, in life one day or the other, someone will need you to talk to, as much as you will need someone also to talk to. How you feel after the talk and how you make the person feel matters a lot. Do not turn people down, get prepared to help that friend bottling up things and help yourself by letting that thing you are bottling go. You can only do this by letting it out - Talk To That Person You Need To Talk To.

Caution: Know who you Talk to. (I'll blog this topic soon).

Wonderful Experience

It's a wonderful time to be alive, don't you think so? With all the hullabaloo going on in the political terrain of this great nation, we should not just be comfortable analysing why we deserve a great leader who will make significant changes but we should begin to demand one.

However that's not what I want to talk about today. Today I want to tell you about my wonderful experience on Saturday December 16, 2006. I had a meeting (Mentorship session) with Adeolu Akinyemi and Gbenga Sesan. By the way, Adeolu Akinyemi is an HR Manager, with specialist skills in Talent Management, Learning and Development and Gbenga Sesan was Nigeria's first Information Technology Youth Ambassador. Presently they are both Managing Partners of Generis Solutions, a budding consulting firm with a vision to become the leading global company that helps people and businesses succeed.

We were about six mentees present at the Mentorship Session. I discovered there is a lot to learn from these great young guys. Gbenga started the session by giving us a 'wake up' call.

Deolu challenged us by letting us know that "a day will come in ones life when you will meet someone with equal potentials & opportunities, the differentiating factor is how much you have developed that potential in you".

There was a lot of questions from the mentees and answers were flowing from these two great guys like a water fountain. I will tell you that it was an inspiring session and when we were through in the evening, I felt like Peter when he saw Jesus at the mountain of transfiguration and asked for tents to be built for Jesus, Moses and Elijah 'cos' he did not want to come down from the mountain.

I will just briefly share with you few of the things I took away from this Mentorship Session.

Take Home:

Your network is a determinant of your networth. The essence of power is not for control but for opening doors and granting access.

Your strength cannot stand between you and your greatness but your weaknesses can.

That change is not occurring the way we want it is probably because we are asleep.

Three questions you must ask yourself:

1. Why am I here? (Purpose).

2. Where do I want to be ten years from now? (Planning).

3. What are the things I must do to get there and what are the skills required? (Preparation).

No matter how much talent you have, if you don't spend time developing it, it will remain dormant.

What you have that you don't use is not yours.

The most important part of you will always be what is inside of you.

NOTE:

I hope this is enough to stir you, if not, then you have to climb this mountain yourself.

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